Have you ever had one of those days when everything seemed to be going wrong? It starts in the morning getting up late, your car not starting easily, problems at work, dinner burning…..you know, one of those days?

And then, have you ever had one of those days when everything seemed to be going right? You feel great when you wake up, you are in love with everybody, you make a bunch of money, you have a great dinner with some friends……the kind of day you want to have every day.

What makes the difference between a bad day and a good day?


As you may know, if you are experiencing inner conflict, that is what is reflected in your outer world. If you are a great writer, but you spend your days doing a job you don’t like and are not writing at all, and resent the fact you are not writing, your inner conflict is going to show in your mood and the interactions you have with others and the physical world.

However, lets say you are really good with people, doing what you love—even if it is volunteer work—puts you in alignment. You are going to be happier and this inner enjoyment is going to show in your mood and in a natural expression of confidence. Your happiness and natural confidence guide you in your choices, attracting like-minded, like-hearted people into your world.

So how do you know whether or not you are in alignment?

By how you feel. If you feel bad, you are not in alignment and you have changes that need to be made. If you feel great, you are in alignment. Now is a good time to invite others to “play” with you.

Over simplistic? Perhaps. But even in my worst depression, there was a strong element of truth in this formula. When I felt my worst, there were changes I needed to make. Life affirming changes that put me in alignment with my happiness stimulated greater happiness. I found my depression easier to bear and heal when I gave myself permission to to enjoy some moments of pleasure.

And if you are looking for your soul mate or partner, there is no more powerful aphrodisiac for attraction than a person who is happy with their life. Finding someone with share interests is an absolute joy.

So ask yourself some questions to help yourself see how to get into better alignment.

1. In what area of your life do you feel like you are out of alignment?
2. What do you wish you could be doing?
3. What one change or addition could you make to put yourself into greater alignment?

Once you have your answer, consider actually doing it for one week, in some form or another. Get creative here. If you know you need a new job, ask yourself what you could do to transform your job into something that would be in greater alignment, or consider positioning yourself for a promotion, get started on a resume, or volunteer somewhere a few hours a week doing something you love. Prime the pump and get things moving toward greater alignment.

If you really want to make progress, tell a friend what you are going to do and invite them to ask you about it in a week. It’s a gentle way to hold yourself accountable. Building in a little self-accountability is a great way to coach yourself into an aligned life.
Or have some fun. Take my Mystic Dreaming audio course and create a life of alignment from the inside out. Connect to your deepest desires and bring them to life in the inner worlds through journeys, dreaming (day and night dreams) and ceremony.

The more fun you make it,the more motivated you will be to stick with and take your next steps in creating a life of alignment.

It’s helpful to remember there is no end-point in alignment. As you evolve, there will be new ways in which you will feel more aligned with what you are creating next. Moving toward your alignment will help you see and navigate your truest path.